From Enabled Kids
Any married couple would tell you that parenting as a couple takes work. What with sleepless nights, stressful days taking turns taking care of your child and endless decisions to make about your child’s education, health, extracurricular activities and so on.
It becomes even more complicated when you are raising a child with special needs. The original chores and duties are piled up with appointments with the therapists, seeking out special childcare and simply learning about the diagnosis of your child. All these issues could become a burden on a marriage if it is not dealt with promptly and with good principles. We asked some couples to give us honest insights into how parenting a special needs child has affected their marriage, and came up with a list of tips to help your marriage go from standstill to smooth.
1. Set aside time every day to chat one-on-one
Communicate, communicate, communicate. How many disputes and arguments are because couples not taking the time to talk to each other and release their thoughts and feelings? Our emotional and mental health are nurtured when we come to each other and be intentional in encouraging and acknowledging each other’s efforts.
“It would be much better if our communication were more honest or open,” Jocelyn Huang, mother of 2 daughters, one with cerebral palsy, said about her marriage.
Being honest about what you are feeling being a parent day-to-day and setting aside time to talk daily could take away frustration and grudges that might have been built up during the day.